Once again, this is deeply personal for me. Covid-19 is still raging and back on the uptick and it appears as if our anxiety levels have elevated in sync with the new cases. This time and space has been a real wake up call for some, and for others it has left them stagnant and cold still wondering what was left to do.
My church family was given good sound spiritual and practical preparation for 2020. Did we know exactly what was going to happen and how it would happen? No, but we knew enough to formulate us to get our houses in order by stocking up with food, getting our papers in order and preparing for the financial crisis that is surely heading our way. Another major talking point was to get right with our families.
I have six sisters and a brother that I am in relationship with. There may be others but I don’t know them like that. I haven’t spoken with one of them for over two years and it is not because I haven’t tried. I trust the word of God and am obedient to his instructions at all times as best as humanly possible. During this pandemic, I made a push to do better and get that connection back on track and it still failed.
Why am I mentioning this? One of the major things I’ve learned as a blogger is you cannot blog and not be transparent. Now is the time to move on fixing those relationships if you haven’t begun yet. We are still in the midst of the pandemic and things will get worse before they get better. Your family support will become very essential to you in the months and year ahead. Looking back over this time, you may see that whatever it was that separated you, pales in comparison to what is going on in the world right now.
Not every relationship can and will be mended. The caveat is, you will never know if you don’t try. You have to know when to let go, and let God. If you seek his guidance through this process, he will keep you in peace and move you along until there is a time of reconciliation. He knows what he is doing and I believe that but we also need to put faith into action and start with a phone call, text message or email. Stop trying to “win” all the time and start trying to heal! The pandemic has caused enough apprehension, don’t feed it anymore.
We are still fighting the battle of systemic racism and if you are like me, you are seeing people you love here this morning, gone this evening. Don’t let anger and pettiness plague your heart. Do what you need to do on your end to let stuff go! You will feel much better and you may gain a family member back. WE NEED EACH OTHER!
Have a GREAT weekend! Be Safe!
“Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves” – Ecclesiastes 4:12
7 replies on “Knowing When to Let Go”
So very proud of you sis. Especially on the transparency, it’s a tough thing to do when you’re a naturally private person. Trust me. But like you said, you did your part to the fullest, and it is time to let go and let God. That’s all he wants is for us to at least TRY. He will always make up the difference! Be blessed!
Thank you. There is no privacy when trying to heal and help others. I am really learning that there is great value in not only sharing but listening and seeing how many people are going through the same thing. When you find yourselves in similar situations, it takes away the stigma that you are alone and helps give you direction listening to the advise and stories of others.
That part, “stop trying to ‘win’ all the time and start trying to heal” is foundational to our overall well being. It is so unfortunate when we find ourselves in a space where reciprocity isn’t a normative practice. I commend you for your transparency and appreciate you illuminating truth. It’s difficult to accept, but everyone doesn’t want to engage with us, even blood relatives. We cannot allow moles in our lives take up residence or space of a mountain. I pray people are encouraged by this post and will begin to do the hard work of making an effort to reconcile-yes, but also realizing when that effort will not yield fruit. When we have done all that we possibly can…let it go!
I thank you Pastor for your leadership and guidance in spearheading such an important part of our development and overall well-being during this pandemic. There are many areas of our lives we need to be reviewing and restructuring during this time of stillness and now is not the time to be lax in our duties in following up in any of those areas.
“Stop trying to win, and try to heal.” I love that statement. Today I took a deep breath and Let it go because of this statement. Keep blogging, keep bing transparent and keep blessing us. Love you to life.
This post was meant for me because I feel like I am always in aughts with friends and/ or family. If there ever was an issue with one, i always tried my best to mend things before they got worse. Sometimes it was fixed, but there were many times it failed because I realized you cannot change people’s behavior. I would forgive people out of the kindness of my heart, mainly because i loved them. However through experience, that can only take you so far because at the end of the day you need to look out for you. A lot of those broken relationships was toxic to my mental and physical health because the stress would genuinely take it’s toll on me. There are people in my life i never thought I’d have to actually give up on because they were not good for me but i still love all those people regardless. Now, I just stop engaging and leave it to God and watch him work. He never disappoints.
I’m happy you decided to look out for yourself first. Your physical and mental well being must always take the forefront. Leave it to God. He will work it out no matter the outcome. The battle is not yours, it’s the Lords. 🙂