Today I want to keep things simple and in the spirit of Father’s Day Weekend, give my thoughts on the weight and trials that the Fathers, in particular, our Black Men, are going through right now. Black Lives Matter. Our men’s lives matter. Fathers, husbands, sons, brothers, nephews & cousins alike. They all matter.
I salute you! Every day you wake now you have an added pressure of living life under the microscope. No one gets to hear the wonderful stories of what great “girl dads” you are before you are tragically removed from our lives just for being you. They don’t see you seating having tea parties, dance-a-thons, reading stories or braiding hair. They never know how much we as your partners look forward to your warm embraces, tender touches and comforting voices. They could never imagine the dynamics that we have as a family, where laughter is essential and love is eternal.
What they see is a threat. Your beautiful skin, from light brown to midnight black and everything in between. Your build, strong, lean, powerful, thick. That voice, one that will make you jump out of your skin but is as smooth as silk. It’s what we love and what they fear. Why? The simple answer is that all women, including theirs love it too.
You are not a threat. We see you. We salute you. We know that there are many great Fathers out there doing the right thing by their sons and daughters and deserve the opportunity to do so. We have to change the narrative and we will. Brick by brick we are tearing down stereotypes and letting the world see you for who you are. We have got to go faster so that we can stop losing you. There will be some Fathers who won’t be here tomorrow to be celebrated for the heroes and kings that they are.
I’m weary of living in a constant state of anxiety and fear because I have black and brown men in my life. I’m bone tired of existing in a system that tells me every day that me and my people do not matter. IT’S NOT TRUE. BLACK LIVES MATTER. FATHERS YOU MATTER!!! The family needs you and we will keep you covered as we always have!
Be kind to the men in your life, the load they bear is a heavy one. We are built to be a great support system and in return, their strength keeps us motivated and moving forward. Together, as a team, there are no weak links!
Have a great day!!!
“The quality of a father can be seen in the goals, dreams and aspirations he sets not only for himself, but for his family.” ―Reed Markham
4 replies on “Our Black Fathers”
To every brother that must swim uphill against the vicious mindset of the United States of America, we thank you for not giving up. We know you are strong, powerful, courageous and carry a heavy burden to lead simply because “they” see you as a threat. I simply pray this prayer, I pray you see yourselves as I see you. Society will always be easily intimidated by one who naturally excels in all areas in life. Keep pursuing, keep thriving, keep fighting. You are not alone. The wheels of justice turn slowly, but you are living in a season where the momentum is on your side. I pray things will get better in your lifetime and you will begin to enjoy the fruits of your sacrifice. Happy Father’s Day!
Amen to that!
Sis, I stand by and for every word written in today’s important message to our lives and our men. With a RESOUNDING cry, I/we support, love and keep you lifted up in prayer.
We HAVE to keep them uplifted and encouraged. This world certainly is not painting a pretty picture of them!